I am hoping that this essay is not considered “Hate speech”.  I want to be fair to “Both sides” of the issue.  I am also hoping that the ex-gay community can benefit or be blessed by these essays?


 Alternative Sexual Orientation ESSAY


 First of all, I don’t think anyone is born straight or gay.  For the most part all males are attracted to females because they have body parts that the males don’t have; and the same is true for the reason why females are attracted to males.  This union of male and female connection doesn’t need a Biblical mandate from heaven, it is simply a normal, natural selection of male/female compatibility that promotes love and propagates future generations.  Environmental toxins and the imbalance in male or female hormones can disrupt normal sexual attraction and cause someone to desire a different lifestyle (plus, creating the feminization of the male species).


We have a “Free will” to choose a mate or a partner (and God doesn’t stop us from making an out-of-the-norm choice).  Humans should be more like God and try to determine and understand “Why” someone deviates from the “Norm” and at the same time “Not judge them”.


God is a Spirit being who has no body, but He is masculine and feminine and humans are male and female.  Incidentally, the verse that says, “Let US” make man in our image, male and female. The “US” isn’t God and Jesus.  It is the masculine and feminine nature of God that makes us human.   


The GLBT group seems to want everyone to believe that they were born with a same sex attraction.  In reality it is a same “Emotional” attraction that they seek.  Sex isn’t what unites them.  Me telling gays and lesbians that they “generally” have hatred for and fear of the opposite sex or they are “Missing” a healthy relationship with the “Same” gender parent, (And unconsciously end–up deciding to combine adolescent nurturing needs with their post puberty sexual needs and have them met by that one gay or lesbian person they like) is why they seek a “Partner” instead of a “Mate” is a logical presupposition.  A gay or lesbian can more easily understand how to love them and meet their emotional needs.  Telling gays and lesbians that no child wants or needs 2 mommies or 2 daddies, didn’t make the GLBT members happy with me.


I think the biggest mistake that Christians, Jews and Muslims and followers of other religions make is that they embrace the same mind set that healthcare workers have.  They end up focusing on the symptoms (attitudes and actions) rather than the causes of their spiritual, physical or emotional pain in a person’s life. “All” humans have sinned and come short of the Glory of God and that there is “None” righteous, no not one:  Thus humans need to let God be the “Only” Judge; and even if someone is gay or lesbian, then self-righteous judgmentalism towards GLBT individuals just leads heterosexuals to sin against others (gays and lesbians made in the image of God).  Most “People of faith” (Jew, Muslim or Christian etc.) are “Very” hateful, disrespectful and pious in their opposition to same-gender sexual relationships.


No human is more righteous if they are straight and no human is more sinful if they are gay or lesbian, because we all struggle with our own hidden or damaged emotions that are buried in a sea of pain.  God uses the word “Fool” (a noun) when referring to “His judgment” of someone’s attitude or actions.  Humans should only use the word “Foolish” (an adjective) when describing him or herself or another person’s lifestyle.  It is not our call to condemn gays or lesbians; if they want a “Partner” instead of a “Mate” then we should try to live in harmony with them.


Straight people need to stop being the proverbial bully on the playground and realize you are focusing on torturing gays and lesbians simply because they have chosen a relationship with a same gender person that you aren’t personally attracted to or desire to be with in a romantic way.  And thinking you are “More” righteous than a gay or lesbian proves that you have a delusional mindset that reveals you don’t “Truly love God”!!!


Here is a reality, if 99 % of the world population is heterosexual by choice and design, then this means that almost “All” sins committed on planet earth; murder, rape, incest, lying, stealing, gossip, being motivated by the lust for power, money, and fame, etc. are done by straight people of faith (since most humans have a religion).  Plus, almost all gays and lesbians have a religious faith and do not embrace Atheism and they too exhibit “All the same righteous acts” that all humans can do in order to please God and their fellow man.          

The bottom line:  May we all try to better understand why we make certain choices in life, learn from our experiences and therefore we can be healed and then we will have more options in life and have a loving mate or maybe just a loving partner with no child born.





P.S.  GLBT members expressing love and appreciation:


The heterosexual religious fanatics and the gay/lesbian groups want me to only promote ideas that benefit or promote their particular group.  This essay has been out about 8 months and not “1” gay or “1” lesbian (much less millions) have been courteous enough to respond to or thank me for posting these truths. 


You would think that Arthur Trafford saying (1) God loves gays and lesbians of faith just as much as heterosexuals of faith (2) gays and lesbians are just as righteous and spiritual as straights (3) and it is obvious that most heterosexual people of faith commit the overwhelming majority of all sins committed on earth that grieves God and harms the whole human race, WOULD MAKE ME A FRIEND OF THE GAY AND LESBIAN COMMUNITY (evidently not).


I would like these minority groups to express their appreciation to me in a tangible way by sending gifts to my Arthur@ArthurTrafford.com PayPal.com account (on my website ArthurTrafford.com.  Of the millions of gays and lesbians who will read my essays and receive comfort and assurance of God’s Love and acceptance of them, then just maybe a few will bless me with a donation. 


I will not ignore their future acts of kindness (pay it forward, principle) for I will say THANK YOU right now for blessing me; with no other comments needing to be sent to any individual GLBT members or groups.  When I go out of my way to be fair to all individual made in the image of God, then I do not appreciate being ignored by the individuals that I wish to help and bless.